do it for you and not for them - an apology letter by top Houston lifestyle blogger Ashley Rose of Sugar & Cloth

An Open Apology Letter

Dear friends, please consider this an open apology letter for all of my trash talking about you. I get it now.

I’ve gotten several very concerned messages from what I’m imagining are now ex-readers of Sugar & Cloth wondering if the blog has changed and can I keep the “TMI” about my personal life to a minimum (see choice example message below). And I understand the concern, I really do.

I, too, was one of those people that thought to myself “does this person honestly post ANYTHING else besides their kids?”. I also dreaded the first day of school on Facebook wondering if the backpack photos would EVER end. I mean, I’m glad you love your kid but surely there’s got to be more to your life?!

And no, I don’t want to see photos of your kids proudly eating cookies for the first time, or having your endless posts asking for advice from fellow moms pushed on me. Surely you can text someone and spare the rest of us your breastmilk woes to spare the rest of us, right?!

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Don’t even get me started about the words “colic” and “gassy”, oh if I had a nickel for all of the times I’d heard those words and didn’t give a crap at all (literally just took a break writing this post to Windi my child).

Now I’m over here eating my words from saying “that will never be me!”. Turns out I’ve never been more interested in someone’s bowel movements until I had a baby, haha. Oh, and I could wallpaper an entire house with just photos of her from 0 to 2 months without shame.

Which brings me to my next point: I’m sorry I’m not sorry about that. I didn’t understand until I became a parent either. This makes me a hypocrite and I’m okay admitting that.

Some of you may be wondering why I don’t just keep my personal joys separate on Instagram so that the blog content stays the same since, after all, this is a business. The short answer is that, yes, I could do that to keep you entertained without interruption of our usual scheduled programming, but I don’t have the energy to.

You are the reason that we’re able to do what we do here on S&C, and your loyalty is invaluable to me, but I’ve spent almost seven years trying everything I can think of (literally!) to keep entertaining you and making things seem perfect. And I’m tired.

do it for you and not for them - an apology letter by top Houston lifestyle blogger Ashley Rose of Sugar & Cloth

If I won the lottery tomorrow, I would still keep doing what we’re doing. That said, I want to do it because it’s a passion and an outlet and not because I’m begging you to stay. I realize that sharing more of our personal lives as a family behind the blog is not going to be for everyone – and we’re still going to share our regular colorful creations with you regardless —  but I’m enjoying the freedom of sharing our day-to-day life, struggles, and joys with you in an unfiltered way.

Numbers don’t make me happy, but my family and authenticity do. 

So if sharing those things in an honest way isn’t for you, then I understand. I was that person too. I’ve done MANY an unfollow or good trash-talking binge myself, but I’m currently loving nothing more than joining this new parent club with some of you!

To wrap up with word-vomit of a post, we are still the same old Sugar & Cloth and regular people faking it until we make it that you know (and hopefully love!), but we’re also adding a more pure glimpse into our life and story that you didn’t get to see much of before.

 

do it for you and not for them - an apology letter by top Houston lifestyle blogger Ashley Rose of Sugar & Cloth

An Open Apology Letter

Dear friends, please consider this an open apology letter for all of my trash talking about you. I get it now.

I’ve gotten several very concerned messages from what I’m imagining are now ex-readers of Sugar & Cloth wondering if the blog has changed and can I keep the “TMI” about my personal life to a minimum (see choice example message below). And I understand the concern, I really do.

I, too, was one of those people that thought to myself “does this person honestly post ANYTHING else besides their kids?”. I also dreaded the first day of school on Facebook wondering if the backpack photos would EVER end. I mean, I’m glad you love your kid but surely there’s got to be more to your life?!

And no, I don’t want to see photos of your kids proudly eating cookies for the first time, or having your endless posts asking for advice from fellow moms pushed on me. Surely you can text someone and spare the rest of us your breastmilk woes to spare the rest of us, right?!

MY LATEST VIDEOS

Don’t even get me started about the words “colic” and “gassy”, oh if I had a nickel for all of the times I’d heard those words and didn’t give a crap at all (literally just took a break writing this post to Windi my child).

Now I’m over here eating my words from saying “that will never be me!”. Turns out I’ve never been more interested in someone’s bowel movements until I had a baby, haha. Oh, and I could wallpaper an entire house with just photos of her from 0 to 2 months without shame.

Which brings me to my next point: I’m sorry I’m not sorry about that. I didn’t understand until I became a parent either. This makes me a hypocrite and I’m okay admitting that.

Some of you may be wondering why I don’t just keep my personal joys separate on Instagram so that the blog content stays the same since, after all, this is a business. The short answer is that, yes, I could do that to keep you entertained without interruption of our usual scheduled programming, but I don’t have the energy to.

You are the reason that we’re able to do what we do here on S&C, and your loyalty is invaluable to me, but I’ve spent almost seven years trying everything I can think of (literally!) to keep entertaining you and making things seem perfect. And I’m tired.

do it for you and not for them - an apology letter by top Houston lifestyle blogger Ashley Rose of Sugar & Cloth

If I won the lottery tomorrow, I would still keep doing what we’re doing. That said, I want to do it because it’s a passion and an outlet and not because I’m begging you to stay. I realize that sharing more of our personal lives as a family behind the blog is not going to be for everyone – and we’re still going to share our regular colorful creations with you regardless —  but I’m enjoying the freedom of sharing our day-to-day life, struggles, and joys with you in an unfiltered way.

Numbers don’t make me happy, but my family and authenticity do. 

So if sharing those things in an honest way isn’t for you, then I understand. I was that person too. I’ve done MANY an unfollow or good trash-talking binge myself, but I’m currently loving nothing more than joining this new parent club with some of you!

To wrap up with word-vomit of a post, we are still the same old Sugar & Cloth and regular people faking it until we make it that you know (and hopefully love!), but we’re also adding a more pure glimpse into our life and story that you didn’t get to see much of before.

 

Comments

  • Michele channell

    04.23.18

    You just keep doing how and the way you have been doing! I love it all.

  • Amanda

    04.23.18

    Hi, I don’t think that you should apologize for putting your family first. Your baby is a celebration of your love and dedication and is part of all the lovely stuff you produce! Use the negativity from others to inspire you to create more magic!

  • Corina Nika

    04.23.18

    Girl i love you even more for this post!!!

  • Karen

    04.23.18

    Your content is still very much about color and style. The fact that it evolves as your life evolves is as it should be! The joy of your child, and your changing life will only add more color and style. Boohoo and bye bye to those that don’t enjoy the sharing and the changes.

  • sandi

    04.23.18

    The haters will hate – the lovers will love. The haters can leave – us who love your blog will stay! :)

  • Eugenia

    04.23.18

    I love what you do, and I also love the way you take care for your family. So those who love you will stay, Let´s leave out the negatives.

  • Wendy

    04.23.18

    You are fine. You have a sweet baby girl so talk about her if you want to. This shows others how much you care about your family. I will continue to read and love your blog. Wendy

  • Allison Plean

    04.23.18

    I totally get it!

    Perhaps there is a different way to structure your blog. i remember when i was setting up so many blogs in the past – that i APOLOGIZE for not keeping them going (i’m also an asshole – especially being a professional writer with a major DIY PROBLEM)
    And you could categorize the different parts of your blog so that you can keep your dedicated readers that still read “Section A” and one for people who care a lot about “Topic B,” etc.

    i confess that I new to your blog and it was the only one i have ever subscribed to because you somehow “got me,” probably because i was just trying to make some annoying “pop up” go away. No offense, Please.

    and Miss Serendipity happened to catch my eye to read your post to see if it was a faker. seriously. to see if it was just another gimmick to use to get someone’s attention because social media is always one click away from even putting down your phone/device just because your puppy is chewing up your mean landlord/roommate’s son’s favorite stuffed animal!!!

    point being, nice job.

    you had me at your honestly and putting your foot down in a sweet way. aka. talking shit about other blogs who do the same and then saying fuck it. i’m gonna becomes just like them, so if you don’t like it, piss off – but somewhat more graceful.

    I loved it!
    Cheers 🍻!

    P.S. i originally landed on your page because of the DIY section, so make sure you keep a DIY section on there, cool?

    and. i’ll let you know if i ever get my etsy shop and associated blog (which i figured no one would ever read) back up ✈️

  • Joy Gwilliam

    04.23.18

    You know I have not been blessed with children myself & I love all children. So I sorta lived through all of you that post about your children. It does this old heart good. You are a good mom. Stay proud of every little moment with them and poo poo to the others.

  • CHRissy

    04.24.18

    Dear S & C,
    Thank you for the open letter. It takes someone who looks within to be able to post an apology to the readers that may have been offended by as you say ‘TMI’, I’m not one of those readers.
    I enjoy the DIYs and jokes and your sharing, so keep it coming. I feel if a reader cannot appreciate your candor and your willingness to share the things happening in your life, then they should simply not read it. We grow and evolve as human beings and things cannot stay the same. Do not change who you are.
    Have a blessed day. Lots of Hugs from your fan.

  • Lisa

    04.24.18

    never change!

  • Gabe

    04.25.18

    GOOD ON YOU!!!

  • Eva

    04.26.18

    Don’t fake it. Keep it real. Keep it about you. You can’t stay the same for ever & it’s the growth through different phases & changing interests that will keep us coming back

  • Di

    04.27.18

    I love you blog and you should be proud of it. I will continue to be a reader of this amazing blog. You should be happy and willing to celebrate everything that life can offer.

  • Windy

    04.30.18

    I’ve loved watching you blog change and your family grow! You got this girl!!! And as a Momma of 4….there is nothing wrong with loving your babies and it shows how much you love yours! So what your “followers” might change….you’ve changed….embrace it!!!!

  • Bea

    05.03.18

    You’re a real person with a real life. Your life has changed and there’s no pretending that your baby isn’t a huge part of it now. Leaving out all mention of that would be far more weird than your posts evolving to include your family. Shame that some people aren’t into it but thatsall the case and they’re free to leave.

  • I love it! I find myself reading more and more of your content these days! I think the nature of blogs is change! Some seasons are for some readers and some seasons are for others!

  • KaTie

    05.10.18

    OH MY GOD, BYE FELICIAS! I LOVE your TMI posts and the amazing candor with which you write about parenting. I had my son about two weeks before you and I love following along on your struggles and successes because it makes me feel like I’m not constantly on the Failboat. I know what you mean about shifting priorities – I’ve never talked about poop so much in my life. But we’re just out here trying to survive and the energy we have leftover after keeping a human alive with our bodies should go only where we want to spend it. Spend your energy wisely 🙌

  • Kim Lucian

    05.12.18

    I can’t even begin to tell you how much I appreciated reading this. I have definitely felt similar pressure and this was seriously such a refreshing response.

  • Bernie

    05.13.18

    Thank you for this honest post. I respect your honesty and thinks it great how your views have changed. It’s okay to stand by your past views because that is how you felt then. Just keep being you!

  • Stacey mika

    05.22.18

    After becoming a mom (now of two!), I had the same feelings and you know what, I stopped reading blogs that didn’t have anything about kids because I just didn’t have the time for it all anymore. I think as our lives change, our focus changes amd even though those annoyed of all the TMI might walk away, you’re gaining a whole new crew of people who want to see you tackle it all and survive! Xoxo

  • Jessica

    05.22.18

    For what it’s worth, I love the baby posts and find it encouraging that you can still do your thing with a new baby on your hip.

  • Julia

    05.24.18

    I am 4 months pregnant and love your posts about your baby. In fact I look for posts about baby and I wish you would share more about what products you buy! I want stylish items, party ideas, and crafts around babies! That what I am interested in. Peoples lives change and your content will to. Please start including where you get your swaddles, toys, etc. I would love that! Like the swan pillow-where is that?! I want one!

  • Heather

    06.01.18

    I love all the baby posts! She’s so adorable! But I totally get it. It’s funny because after having my daughter I changed, too. I have definitely give some parents the stink eye for an unruly child more than once and now I wish I could go back and apologize. Parenting is rough and overwhelming and joyous. As a new mom myself, I enjoy the family content as well as the “same ol” stuff. :)

  • Michelle H

    06.09.18

    I just love this post! You do you honey…baby posting and all. We are all here to evolve and change with life events. Don’t exclude that most important part of your life on the platform you’ve created.

  • rebe

    06.10.18

    I LOVE your biog and TOTALLY love the family info. I get it. I have a 21 month old and I was the same not thinking Id share so much family stuff. The fact is WE LOVE our little ones, they make us happy so SHARE the love! Be proud! And you a big BOO to the people who comment annoying things. Then, don’t read! Congrats on a happy life you have! xo

  • Kamal

    06.13.18

    I love how real you are and I particular love the posts where you share more of yourself. It’s a breath of fresh air.

  • Danabee

    06.17.18

    Hi, today is my first day seeing your blog and the first thing I’ve read is this apology post. I’m an older mom of two. I love this post, this “declaration of independence” from what the masses are clamoring for. Follow your bliss, Mama! And you have drawn the line with stating you care more about family and authenticity. Hooray and thank god and I can only hope more bloggers do the same. Readers can gravitate to where their hearts call them. Good for you for standing up for your right to walk the path you choose.

  • Heather

    06.21.18

    I love seeing the posts about Gwen! My daughter is the same age and they are doing the same things at the same time which I obviously find endlessly entertaining! Don’t listen to the haters!

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